I had something completely different in mind for the blog today but yesterday I came across something that I really wanted some opinions on. Someone had tweeted an article about a man who wrote a tribute to his ex on a popular political blog (i.e. not his own personal blog) on her, wait for it, wedding day to someone else. In an effort not to infuse my opinion on the situation, I am going to give you a brief rundown with as few snide comments as I can possibly hold in. The author writes that said ex was the love of his life, saved him from post-divorce depression, was essentially the best thing that ever happened to him, he just of course didn’t realize it until she moved on, and that he wants her to know she doesn’t have to feel guilty about the dissolution of their relationship and carry that into her new relationship. How generous of him! You can read the full text here and I encourage you to do so before you make an opinion on the matter. I originally planned some more real wedding photography via Melissa Dunstan for you today and just so you have something to look at, I am going to mix some in. I also want you to keep in mind how exciting your wedding day is and what you should be thinking about on that day.
Alright I hope you went and read the lengthy rant which included lines such as, “It wasn’t too long after we met that I began imagining what our wedding day would be like.” and an entire paragraph about how much his dying father loved her and he never had the heart to tell him that they had broken up. Or perhaps my favorite line, “The present I humbly send her today is … this worldly absolution from any guilt or sadness she felt between the time she said no to me and the time she said yes to him. No one ought to have to carry that with them into a marriage.” Are you dying right now like I was?!
Alright I give up on hiding my opinion. This public display of lost affection is downright awkward, tacky and inappropriate. Riddle me this, on your wedding day were you overcome with sadness and guilt over your ex? Were you hoping for closure on your last relationship on the day you start the rest of your life with another person? So here is what I am trying to figure out, what was the point of this column? It clearly wasn’t for her benefit. Was it an awkward attempt to get her back via a blog post on her wedding day, a snide jab just to make her feel guilty one last time, or some arrogant attempt to make himself feel better? What’s even more shocking to me is the fact that many people commented how sweet this gesture was! Which is why I need your thoughts. Am I missing the sweet part here?
Would your wedding have been better if your ex would have given his blessing? Would you be glad to know, on your wedding day, that your ex still loved you and thought the world of you? If he really wanted to let her know he was happy for her, could he have not just sent her, oh let’s say, a nice wedding card? Did she register for the “gift” of a desperate, public walk down memory lane with her ex? No, well then, sticking to the registry has never been more appropriate. Luckily, someone has some intelligence, Lizzie Skurnick to be exact, and she drafted my thoughts exactly into an entertaining response to this blog posting tragedy. Read her thoughts here.
Now that you’ve read both sides, which side are you on? Did I skim past the charming and appropriate part of Andrew’s post? Would this have been more acceptable had he posted it on his own personal blog as opposed to Politics Daily where he serves as a legal analyst who’s general topics include things such as the Arizona Immigration Law. Does this take the cake for the worst way your ex can infuse himself into your wedding day or can someone top it? Please shed some light!
