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What Good Do Your Shoes Do?

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I feel sorry for grooms and their uberly boring outfit selection. Of course if they were super funky they could go all out with a plaid suit and ruffle shirt but for the average groom that just wants a little bit of originality there are very little options. In addition, Kyle is not funky by any means. He has no desire to really stand out but would appreciate a little flare in his wedding day outfit. Which is why I suggested red argyle socks, yeah I know socks, lame. But it is just the level of funkiness Kyle can handle. So I set out on a search for red argyle socks, ideally black socks with red diamonds. Remember we are going for subtle here. I am positive every other time in my life that I was never looking for such socks they were on every rack in every men’s sock section that I passed. However, my search turned up zilch (I don’t think I’ve ever typed that word out before). My search didn’t just involve actual stores, it involved Google. I know something to be true and that is if you can’t find it on Google, it doesn’t exist. Therefore I concluded red argyle socks do not exist. Amazing, I know. Sock crafters everywhere should take advantage of this black hole in the market. Anyway so I thought, surely I can find plain red socks. Nope, because what man wears red socks? I take that back, I found a few pairs of crazy insulated hiking socks or some madness like that for $40 a pair! I think not. I will stick some of his white socks in homemade beet dye before I pay $40 for socks. I did find some argyle socks in the ladies section that I thought could have worked. However, Kyle in all his manliness, was convinced they looked like girl socks. Trust me if we found them in the men’s section, I guarantee this wouldn’t have been the case. In reality they wouldn’t have worked anyway with Kyle’s gargantuan feet, they would have been ankle socks for sure. I was feeling hopeless and disappointed that Kyle would have plain old black socks to wear with his plain black suit. Then out of some fantastic twist of fate, I landed on Tom’s Shoes website. In another exhausting process, we have been shopping for black (plain) dress shoes for him to wear with no luck. Turns out it was fate. To my pure delight, Tom’s has a wedding section. Now if you know anything about Tom’s shoes you know, they all look the same pretty much in terms of style. The wedding section was no different than the classic section but it did mean that people wear them to weddings. Brilliant. How did I never think of Tom’s before?!

Let me tell you a little bit about Tom’s Shoes. In developing countries many children do not have shoes. At all. This means they walk everywhere barefoot which can lead to injury and disease. There are many soil transmitted diseases that can penetrate through the skin of their bare little feet and make the children sick. So when American traveler Blake Mycoskie visited Argentina and realized the children had no shoes, he decided he wanted to give shoes to these children. In an effort to have a sustainable charitable organization that did not have to rely on fund raising, he created the One for One concept. For every one pair of shoes you buy, they donate one to a child. Tom’s Shoes have an organic look to them and apparently are super comfortable. The line has expanded over the last four years (founded in 2006) and as of April 2010 they have given away 600,000 pairs of shoes thanks to people like me and you who buy them. Companies like Ralph Lauren and Element Skateboards have jumped on board with the One for One concept and offer limited edition Tom’s Shoes. Charity Water even has their own Tom’s Shoe which not only provides a pair of shoes to a child but also helps fund a water project in Ethiopia. The majority of the shoes are canvas which means you can write on them, use them as your guest book, or decorate them in any way you choose. I have two major loves in life: shoes and charity. (3 loves, Kyle, oops.) It doesn’t get any better than this in my opinion.

So back to Kyle and his flare. I tried, with all my might, to get him to wear these red shoes. To kill two birds with one stone if you will, flare and shoes. All the shoes we looked at in the dress section at department stores came in around $100, they were shiny, and chances were great they he would never wear them again as we aren’t super formal people. When it comes to shoes for men and weddings I think you either have to have a nice, appropriate dress shoe or something completely unexpected. A mid-grade dress shoe will just look like weren’t paying attention when you got dressed. A Tom’s Shoe on the other hand is clearly a statement, something you did on purpose. In addition, with each step he takes, he will know a child is running around in a new pair of shoes thanks to his wedding shoes. These are very functional and he will wear them again, especially since he went with … plain black.

We’ve asked the groom’s party to consider purchasing and wearing Tom’s Shoes and we’d be delighted if any male guests would wear them as well. Of course the ladies are welcome to wear a pair too, but I know they don’t really go with a dress. While I already have two pairs of wedding shoes, there was no way I could resist these. After all don’t I need “Getting Ready” shoes? If it means one more child gets a pair of shoes, I think I do.

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An Update on our Progress

People keep asking me how things are coming along so I may as well make it public and let everyone read about it. Things are going great and I am learning that everything comes together if you just relax and don’t stress about it! We are continually amazed and honored by the response and support we continue to receive. The process literally gets better day by day. The education we are getting from this is worth it alone. Anyway here is a break down of where we are at:

  • The Amazing Ladies of Celebrations Studio put me at ease as I know the combination of all their talent and ideas will create a wedding of epic proportions. They include:

- Melissa Dunstan: Photography

- Dana Micklos: Flowers

- Kim Duncan: Event Design

  • Food is being provided by Mike Martinez of Red Rock Cafe. In addition, Brenda McClean of Fork in the Road has offered to help tie up any loose ends as her restaurant is located in the plaza where we will be getting married and because she is just that great of a person. We are still hashing out the details of liquor licenses but no fear, a dry wedding is not even a small part of the agenda so I know we will conquer this one.
  • My Dress: First fitting will be taking place May 29th! Which is why I am torturing myself with a raw food diet, oh I mean I am trying to get super healthy!
  • Cake: Donna Joy of Sedona Sweet Arts is as we speak imagining some sugar filled masterpiece that will make even real flowers look bad. Well probably not as we speak, likely she is creating some other couple’s wedding cake but you get it.
  • Engagement photos have been taken and blasted all over Facebook. Robin Reece and her assistant Renee of Reece Photos (Soon to be R2) did an outstanding job and we had a ton of fun!
  • We shot a phenomenal video with Taltos Productions for their Get Wed In The Red reality show, that perfectly captured the mission and makes me cry every time I watch it!
  • My sister selected a Maid of Honor Dress from White House/Black Market. The other girls are working on it…
  • I bought some wedding shoes which will likely be murder but they were just too perfect to pass up! Who needs to walk anyway? As long as I have cute shoes, I can crawl down the aisle.
  • Rehearsal Dinner will be at The Heartline Cafe ! The menu sounds SO delicious, I can not wait!
  • Officiant: Check. My stepdad gets to fill the role which may have been the easiest part of this whole process. I’m not sure I ever actually asked him, it was just implied.
  • Hair and makeup: Don’t you love a MOH with dual functions?!? I sure do. My sister will be taking care of this along with some of her cosmetologist friends.

Those are all the items on the “Checked Off List,” My favorite list. The following still linger on the “To Do” List:

  • The Groom and his entourage are lacking outfits. Of course I can’t inspire Kyle to do much wedding planning and this falls near the end of the list for things I actually want to take care of. Guys are easy, I’m not worried.
  • Music, my nemesis. We need ceremony music, reception music, any and all music. I like the idea of some live stuff but I also appreciate the budget friendly music that comes from an ipod. Either way, I keep avoiding it because it hasn’t been easy so far. If only my family had musical talents! My grandma knew we would regret quitting piano lessons.
  • Accommodations: While I know that finding guests a place to stay really isn’t my responsibility, I also hate the idea of putting people out just so they can come to my wedding. We have contacted a few hotels in an effort to get a block of rooms at a reduced rate. However a $10 discount really wasn’t what we had in mind, nor was a $250 room. Yep, its true. We are in Sedona after all. Next stop, available camp sites and tent rentals…
  • Jewelry: I will be wearing my grandmother’s necklace but I still need earrings, perhaps a fun bracelet, and maybe a vintage ring for my other hand. My tireless Etsy searches haven’t amounted to much as of yet.
  • Invitations: I think of this as something I don’t have to worry about yet so like the music I avoid it. However, time is creeping away and pretty soon I will have to place an order. I have entered countless contests to win some but much like the lottery my luck has failed me.
  • Honeymoon: This is a biggy! Of course we want to take one however we are determining if our brand new business and our tight budget can handle it. Not to mention, there are SO many places I want to go that I can’t possibly decide. Kyle and I aren’t much of world travelers (but we long to be), his passport consists of Mexico and well I don’t even have a passport so what does that tell you. Which means just about anywhere would satisfy us.  I think as long as there is a beach, possibly a little beach hut over the water, and a pina colada I will be fine. Or perhaps a bottle of wine and some outstanding food in some cafe in Europe… I can dream right? And we still want to do something like this.
  • What am I forgetting?

In addition we have completed some fantastic charity efforts:

  • With the help of Red Rock Cafe we have had Go Red For Women Month and Autism Awareness Month.
  • We are currently holding a Food Drive.
  • We began a campaign with Charity Water to raise $1000 in 90 days. It is still going on so get over there and help get people water!
  • We were asked to be members of the Camp Soaring Eagle Steering Committee so we now have a super active role in changing the lives of children!
  • We have donated a little over $100 of non-wedding related funds to various causes we have come across since this process began.
  • We participated in a 5k that benefited Camp Soaring Eagle and tonight we are attending an Eddie Money concert which benefits the camp as well. See how fun charity can be?!?
  • Kyle is working on planning a charity golf event as a bachelor party. I know the groom doesn’t usually plan the bachelor party but our situation is unique all the way around.

That’s the wedding progress in an nutshell. So far, so good. T Minus 147 days to go!

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