Wanting to try something different and fun to liven up your dating life? Wanting to start a fresh as spring sunshine returns to your life? Speed dating offers excitement and a good chance to avoid awkward silences for an entire evening with just one date. It may seem a bit daunting at first to be whisked into a room full of potential partners, so here are some tips to keep under control and confident.
Have good questions ready to avoid awkward silences. Your questions should be selected so that you can get to know them in a short space of time. Think about what is most important to you in a future partner and which things you would like to share with someone. Good subjects are hobbies, travel, food and drink, films and art.
Have some fun questions to break the ice. As well as important aspects which most matter to you, have some fun random questions ready to keep the conversation flowing and to find out what kind of humour your date has.
If you do like your date, make sure that they know it. As speed dating does not give you the luxury of time, any real connection could be lost if one person is hard to read and defensive. Give out subtle hints in your body language such as playing with your hair and smiling a lot.
Have the right attitude. Many of us tend to go for the ‘Dutch courage’ approach when faced with dating nerves; however this could lead to embarrassment and ultimately, you not being entirely yourself. Go in with confidence and good body language and it will be noticed by others.
Listen as well as talk. However much you want to tell that interesting story or convey your best personal attributes, you should always remember that there is two people sitting at the table. Listen to what your date has to say. If you are the only one talking, you will go from person to person with little knowledge of anyone that you have met.
Wear something comfortable and not too dressy. If you want to squeeze into something which doesn’t really fit, it won’t do you any favours. A good thing to think about when choosing an outfit is will you want to immediately take it off when you get back home with uncomfortable aches and pains or will you be happy to wear it for a while longer.
Don’t give away personal information during the night. There will be a form to state your interest about each person. Don’t get caught up in the moment and regret giving someone your details when there is a safe system in place to keep you safe.
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Laura Comben is a writer from Brighton. Her passions are writing, art, photography and reading dating tips from Zanda.