23 Jan

Ouch! What To Do When Cupid Stabs You In The Back

St Valentine’s Day is often lauded as one of the most romantic days of the year, but for those of us that are single it does not often seem to be.  Watching family and friends receive plentiful amounts of Valentine’s Day jewellery whilst we are on the side-lines can seem a little depressing.  So here is how to survive the most romantic day of the year when you are not in the mood.

Single and Ready to Mingle

Being single does not mean that you have to spend the day alone.  Getting together with some single friends or family can mean you have a whole lot of fun without the strain that comes with creating the perfect date night.  Going out for the evening can help you to realise how fun your life really is.  There is no need to feel down or depressed on St Valentine’s Day.  If you do not feel like going out, then forget being stressed and stay in, don your favourite pair of pyjamas and watch your favourite film.  Chances are you will feel a whole lot more relaxed than your friends who are frantically scouring the shops for the perfect, last-minute gift to dazzle their partner with.  You can easily combine the two and invite some friends over for an impromptu spa evening.  Pampering yourselves with manicures, pedicures and facials means you get treated whilst remaining chilled out.  Creating your own facial treatments can also provide the same comedy that a bad St Valentine’s Day date can.

Crafty Cupid

If none of these suggestions float your boat, then here are a few little tips and tricks than can help brighten up that cold winter day of romance:

  • Do some exercise.  On first thought, this seems like a terrible idea.  However, getting yourself moving and the endorphins flowing can make you feel a whole lot happier and fast.
  • Treat yourself to a new outfit, make up, or haircut.  Or all three if you really feel like splashing out.  You have saved money from not purchasing a present, so spend it on yourself.
  • Arrange to exchange gifts with a family member or friend.  You both get treated and it can be fun.
  • Host a dinner party.  Guests may not bring you Valentine’s Day jewellery, but they will most likely bring copious amounts of wine to help you get over this fact.
  • Buy yourself the aforementioned jewellery and view it as an astute investment for the future.
  • Eat some chocolate.
  • Treat yourself to your favourite meal and do not feel guilty about having second helpings.
  • Have a relaxing bath with champagne, candles and your favourite book.
  • Do not sing along to the Celine Dion classic ‘All By Myself,’ go out and have some fun instead.
  • Compare your life to the crazy cat lady next door and realise how good you really do have it.
  • Ignore the day altogether and get on with some chores and jobs that you have been putting off for a while now.
  • Be thankful you do not have to pay the massively inflated prices that the local restaurants and bars are now charging.

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

Overall, try and remember that being alone on the day of love and romance is not the end of the world.  Not by a long way.  It is helpful to maintain some sense of perspective; not everyone is being treated and lavished with amazing gifts.  Unlike them, you have the opportunity to plan your perfect evening and make sure it is executed just so.  You can treat yourself and get exactly what you wanted, which is better than a present you have to pretend to like before discretely asking for the receipt.  There are 365 days of the year and St Valentine’s Day is just another one of those, so do not get too fretful over it.  It will soon be over and you can even use the day as a chance to start a romance with someone you have liked for a while.  If not, then there are 364 days left to grab the perfect date with the perfect partner, whom who will not have to buy a gift for.  What could be better?

Sam Mulder loves romance but is single at the moment.  To overcome the single blues, he treated himself to some Valentine’s Day gifts. Who says you can’t be single and enjoy Valentine’s Day?

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