Hello Friends! Did everyone survive the wrath of Irene? So far I haven’t heard of any really tragic situations and I hope it stays that way. I do assume many of you are cleaning up the mess left behind and I hope that is a swift process! While I was browsing the internet this weekend, I came across a few interesting wedding related articles on Yahoo’s homepage and I immediately knew I wanted to get your opinion on them. So read on and let’s discuss…
First up… Yahoo had an article on the top 9 trends that have gone too far. Basically, trends that are over used and should come to an end. Before I get in to what they actually are, I have to ask, is it possible for a trend to become cliche in an event such as a wedding? Yes, there are several trends that I would like to see disappear but weddings can not be lumped into a large category. Weddings are individual events for couples that are entirely unique from the rest. Just because hundreds of other couples have served beer in mason jars at their wedding, really didn’t make me think twice about doing it at mine. What may be trendy in the world of weddings and clearly recognized by those in the industry are not always thought of the same way by brides and grooms who are planning one wedding, one time. For example, just yesterday on Facebook I saw a status that was remarking with complete amazement at the couple’s idea to offer flip-flops for ladies when their feet just couldn’t bear heels anymore. As someone who looks at weddings daily, I know this is no new trend but let’s remember that not everyone is as obsessed with wedding gawking as we are. I think everyone should use caution when discussing trends negatively. For some couples, trends are brand new fabulous ideas. With that being said, I do agree with a few items on their list, here it is in it’s entirety.
- Dancing to the song At Last… I do love the song but I can’t say I don’t disagree with this sentiment. I believe if you are 70 and marrying for the first time, At Last is completely appropriate. If you are a twenty something, go for something else. Thoughts?
- Tiny Food- The writer doesn’t appreciate cup cakes, mini-quiche, or any version of small food. I disagree. When done well, I am all about bite-sized food options, especially during cocktail hour. Serving burgers at a wedding may not excite most people, but offering mini-burgers as a pre-meal snack is adorable in my opinion.
Mini-pancakes… need I say more?
3. Still life photography… i.e. dress shots, ring shots, shoe shots… Completely disagree but I’d love to hear some opinions from Brides. Again as someone who loves looking at wedding photography, these are some of my favorite shots. However that may be because 99% of the time I don’t know the couple so seeing pictures of them isn’t quite as exciting. I do love my ring shots, shoe shots, and dress shots from my wedding and fully intend on making them part of the album. Photogs, what are your thoughts on this? Do Brides love these shots? I do agree that many times photographers could use a bit more creativity but again, its not like the couple has 400 dress shots at home, they have theirs and they probably don’t care that they look like everyone elses.
4. Tables named after the couple’s not-so-interesting interests… Their wording, not mine. I have to say, I love to see creativity when it comes to table numbers whether that be just finding interesting ways to display the actual numbers or coming up with names for the tables that aren’t numbers. Pretty much no one cares about the table numbers anyway so if a couple wants to name them after dryer lint and cleaning products, I have no problem with that.
5. Using the term ‘Bridezilla’… This was one makes sense as she describes it: “Perhaps if we replaced the get-out-of-jail-free term, ‘bridezilla’, with the more accountable ‘lunatic’, there would be fewer tantrums, fractured friendships, and eye-makeup smudges. Everyone’s entitled to a meltdown on their big day. But with high divorce rates, broken engagements, and a host of spin-off ‘zillas’, the term has come to excuse the inappropriate actions of anyone who’s ever attended a wedding.” Agreed. Get it together people and be nice.
6. Guests as photographers… They are referring to disposable cameras placed at every table for the guests to snap shots. I would say this one in general is outdated and likely shouldn’t even be on the list. Can you even buy a disposable camera anymore? I think after couples realized that it cost them $200 to develop 12 cameras filled with photos of the dance floor this stopped happening. Does this happen?! I haven’t been to a wedding in years where I saw any sort of disposable camera. However they should have discussed guests taking crappy shots with their cell phones and then blasting them all over Facebook. Leave the photo taking to the photographers, that is why the couple is paying big bucks for them.
7. Dogs as ring bearers… I am going to guess that the writer isn’t a dog owner. I am all about dogs in weddings if A. they are really important to the couple and B. They can handle it. I don’t think it is fair to subject a super shy dog to a crowd of staring people. But if the dog is up for it, go for it. Case in point…
8. The roast toast… There is not much to say with this one as I didn’t even realize it was a trend. If you suspect that your Best Man might be completely tacky and inappropriate, skip the speeches. Or, better yet, pick a new Best Man.
9. The laid-back theme… This last one confuses me. The writer is knocking beach weddings and barn weddings, or any such venue that isn’t a banquet hall. As if by picking the beach and opting to go bare foot means that you are trying to be laid back as opposed to, oh I don’t know, practical? Have you ever tried to walk in heels in sand? Enough said.
So what do you think? Do you agree with the list? Is there anything you would add? I’m happy to throw in the mustache trend although I know many of you are still obsessed with it.
I could end this post right here but after reading that article and skimming through related articles I read one about a dress store who refused to sell a dress to a lesbian bride. The store is called, Here Comes the Bride and it is in Somers Point, New Jersey. After reviewing the Bride’s questionnaire and noticing that she crossed off groom and wrote partner, the owner called her and told her she would not be ordering any dresses for her. She stated that her choices were illegal and the store would not involve itself in any illegal activities. Except discrimination that is. I know better than to read the comment section of articles like this one, but I did and became infuriated with the ignorance of people as usual. The argument that ensued was: Is this completely outrageous (yes) or is this the shop owner’s right to refuse business that isn’t in line with her morals? (WTF?) I tell you this only so you are informed if this dress shop is on your list of places to visit.
Ok let’s discuss… both articles or just one, I’d love your opinions!