The way our wedding was structured (with donated services or hefty discounts) often makes it difficult to compare it to other traditionally planned weddings. However there is one element that we incorporated due to our situation that I think more people should test out. Because our vendors were donating time or services my goal was to be SUPER laid back and let them have a little fun. Creativity can get majorly hampered by really strict instructions which prevents all sorts of amazingness that could have been. I didn’t feel like I had the right to be overly picky and well that really isn’t in my nature anyway. The majority of people out there have a clear vision for what they want at their wedding from the colors to the flavor of the cake. Some people even get down right nasty about details that HAVE to be perfect. My advice, loosen up the leash a little and give your vendors some room to be creative. Wedding vendors are absolutely some of the most creative people around and while you have just one wedding, they have seen hundreds if not thousands. Trust me when I say, vendors know best. There is a double bonus here- Not only is it possible that they will create something even better than you think you want but it also takes a little stress away if you just trust them to do what you are paying them to do. Case in point: Flowers. My vision was a typical fall bouquet- reds, oranges, sunflowers, perhaps some foliage. When Dana asked what I had in mind I said- Fall colors and lots of texture. Then I sent her some pictures of what I just described. However I also said, I have no set flowers or design in mind, I trust you. What she created was nothing short of amazing and I could have NEVER come up with it. She used a much more sophisticated palette of deep purples, golds, and red with flowers that I didn’t even know existed. It truly was spectacular. Another example, we did NOT have a set color scheme! WHAT?! I know, crazy. But it’s true. What I didn’t want for sure was anything matchy, matchy. I didn’t know the colors of the linens until I got to the wedding. While the wedding party wore black and red, the decor was more earth tones and fall colors of sage, brown, and oranges. Guess what, it totally worked and totally suited us. If we had been stuck on black and red for the whole thing, I don’t think we would have liked it as much.
Please understand that I could be considered by some as a control freak. I fully stand by the belief, “If you want it done right, do it yourself.” I say this because I don’t want you to think I just didn’t really care about the details or I am just incredibly laid back. In one meeting with Kim she was telling me some of her ideas and I said, “Sounds great.” To which she said, “You really don’t care do you.” I said, “No of course I care, I just know whatever you do will be fabulous.” I knew her expertise trumped even my best ideas for how things should look. I also know how important wedding details are to people, some dream of specific things for their big day since childhood. So, I am not suggesting you don’t give direction or if something truly is important to you, to get exactly what you want. But if there are areas that you are less certain on, trust the vendor to use their discretion. They just might blow your mind.
And an event by Dana of Glamorous Occasions also shot by Melissa.
Happy Wedding Wednesday!! Would you be willing to let your vendors get creative and not give them set instructions to stick by? Where would you be willing to give up a little control?
On an unrelated note, our video is UP!!! In order to see it you’ll have to head over to Facebook, “Like” Get Wed in the Red and watch it! It was shot and edited wonderfully by Taltos Productions! It was SO fun to watch and relive all over again. Let me know what you think! You can watch our Pre-Wedding Video here.